Don’t think of it as pain, think of it as an interesting sensation that requires ALL of your attention.-Ina May Gaskin
With just a week and a half left in my second pregnancy, I am reminded of the intensity I felt during labor with my first born Son. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t completely nervous about going through with it again even though in retrospect, it wasn’t a bad experience (you can read about it here). Quite the contrary actually. I felt that labor & delivery turned out to be much easier than I had originally anticipated.
As women, we have learned to fear the entire process of birth thanks to negative portrayals on television and in movies. Not to mention, the staggering rate at which unnecessary medical interventions are performed in hospitals can really make women feel like their bodies are somehow flawed and incapable of birthing their child.
These notions are false and need to be stopped immediately. There is no reason to fear one of the most natural processes in the entire world! In addition, the pain from childbirth is completely subjective. Some may describe it as pain while others felt it was more like an intense pressure.
Either way, the sensation felt during childbirth is like non-other. It cannot be compared to the pain of breaking a limb, for example, since that would be considered an un-natural occurrence.
For many women, It is extremely challenging to move out of their own way and really allow their body to do the work nature intended for it to do.
Labor is natural
If we start to view the birthing experience as a completely natural process, we will be less likely to fear it. Staying calm, positive, and relaxed during labor can actually help make the process smoother, quicker, and less painful.
What helped me get through 4 days of un-medicated labor with my first Son (besides taking a birthing class and watching countless birthing videos) was reciting various affirmations to myself on a daily basis.
I had many of these affirmations written on note cards which I brought with me to the hospital and had my Husband show me during labor & delivery. It may sound silly but they truly helped me stay positive and kept me going even when I was ready to give up.
Our mind is the most powerful tool available to us and the beauty of it is that we are 100% in control of the thoughts we choose to hold and believe. This is a huge advantage when it comes to dealing with pain, particularly, the pain of childbirth.
Every woman (with the exception of having a high risk pregnancy or serious medical complication) is capable of having a non-medicated birth or at the very least, a positive birthing experience.
Whether this is your first labor and delivery experience or a subsequent one, these affirmations can help you maintain a positive mental attitude about the entire birthing experience.
Pregnancy and birth affirmations
- I was made for this.
- I trust my body
- Each surge brings my baby closer and closer to me.
- I will allow each contraction to wash over me like a wave.
- My body knows exactly how to birth this baby.
- This is a completely natural process.
- My body has grown this baby, it knows exactly how to push him out.
- This experience is a complete gift from God.
- All I have to do is relax, breathe, and let nature take Its course.
- My body is opening up like a flower to allow my baby to exit.
- I will soon meet my precious child.
- My body is capable of doing this all on its own.
- I expect to have a positive birthing experience.
- I am a courageous woman of God.
- I must be patient as I wait for my baby to arrive.
- My body will give birth in its own unique time.
- I envision having a normal and healthy birthing experience.
- I will breathe courageously through each contraction.
- Each contraction produces an easy pain that I can handle.
- I am perfectly capable of doing this.
- I am a strong warrior, fit for this combat.
- I trust my baby and my baby trusts me.
- My body is in sync with my baby and together, we will bring my baby into this world safely.
If you are planning on trying to have a natural un-medicated birth, it might be a good idea to print your favorite affirmations on note cards and read them to yourself aloud prior to your due date.
You can even bring them with you to the hospital and read them during your contractions or, have your partner or Doula read them to you aloud.
Now am I planning on going natural this second time around? who knows. I believe going in with an open mind since plans can change at any time during the course. What I do plan on doing is being as positive as possible and really trusting my body to do the job it was made to do!
These tips are specifically aimed towards women who have a strong desire to go as natural as possible in childbirth.
It does NOT matter what kind of birth you’ve had or end up having. What matters is that you end up with a healthy baby in your arms at the end!
Remember, you CAN do this, you were made for it.